Former Citizen TV news anchor Janet Mbugua says she partially agrees with vlogger Lisa Gaitho on how women should treat their husbands or boyfriends to ensure peace reigns in a relationship.
She, however, differs sharply with Ms Gaitho on her sentiments about “bathing men for money”.
Ms Gaitho recently courted controversy, when she suggested women should do everything they can to get what they want from men – be it financial or material resources.
She even suggested that women should “wash” and “scrub” their partners if need be.
“…if it is one, two or three things that I must do to make him happy and make him feel that he needs to reciprocate, guess what… I would do that which he wants me to do, and I would do it very, very well. For example, if he wants to take his bath, go and wash him, literally; scrub him, do not let him do anything by himself. Wash him, clean his ears… clean his… [Do it] like you would to a baby. Dry him, apply body lotion on him, dress him,” she said in a video uploaded to her YouTube channel recently.
Ms Gaitho further advised women to submit to their partners and do certain things to win their spouses’ approval. These, according to the vlogger, include: cooking, feeding, praising and respecting men.
And now, Ms Gaitho’s school of thought has been partially endorsed by Janet Mbugua, who agrees that women should submit to their partners for order and sanity to be present in relationships.
“When I was growing up, I would see my mum do acts of service for my dad; and he would, in return, show her love and mutual respect. I won’t throw shade at Lisa Gaitho; instead, I partly agree with Lisa,” Janet Mbugua said on an Insta-story video Thursday, July 26.
“A lot of what Lisa said in her video, which is submission, pays references to the Bible. Submission is, however, highly misunderstood. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has talked about it. It is, however, skewed when it becomes an issue of doing it and you are mistreated in return,” said the ex-TV personality.
“When I was about to get married, I sat with a group of aunties [to seek their advice on what I should expect, do, not do in marriage]. In the beginning, I resisted being submissive. I am, however, glad that I was open to it.
“What I came to understand is when you love someone, and they love you back, there is a lot of mutual respect. So, if you are the kind of woman who wants to cater to him, and he genuinely loves you back, then that is okay,” said Janet Mbugua.
The former Citizen TV presenter, however, faulted a large section of Ms Gaitho’s proposition.
“The only part of Lisa’s video that I had a problem with, was the exchange of services, where a woman does acts of service just to get money. There has to be love in the relationship,” said Ms Mbugua.
Janet Mbugua argues that for submission to work, the woman must do it out of love, and not coercion or with an ulterior motive.
Ms Mbugua termed Ms Gaitho’s “wash your man for money” advice as “very bad”, saying she [Ms Gaitho] was sending a wrong message to the youth.
Janet Mbugua says there are five love languages, which guarantee a peaceful and fulfilling relationship. These include: acts of service, receiving gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation and quality time.
According to her, partners should know which love language element best fits their spouses.