In January this year, celebrated preacher Robert Burale, who doubles up as an emcee and motivational speaker, opened up about why he split up from his wife, Rozinah Mwakideu, in 2013 – just one year after they exchanged wedding vows.
Speaking to The Standard in January 2018, Mr Burale claimed “poor communication” and “influence from outsiders” triggered his divorce from Ms Mwakideu, who is the sister of Milele FM radio presenter Alex Mwakideu.
Ms Mwakideu, on her side, in an early December interview with Radio Jambo’s Massawe Japanni said she terminated her marriage to Mr Burale because he was deep in debt and had developed a habit of lying to her.
-MR BURALE’S VERSION-
Mr Burale revealed that he married Ms Mwakideu after five months of dating, saying he met her at a gospel concert.
“We dated, courted, paid dowry and got married all within five months,” Mr Burale said.
Opening up on why their union came to a crashing halt just after one year, Mr Burale said: “I wish I had communicated better with her, listened to her. I also wish I spent more time with her. It’s not that I was travelling or working a lot, but sometimes you can be in the same room as someone else but you are not really spending time together. There was also outside influence from friends. Nobody gets into marriage wanting it to fail. Mine failed after one year, two days! It was painful and depressing.
“There was no infidelity in our marriage, but we should have cultivated our friendship more because this is what holds a marriage together. We should have been friends first,” said Mr Burale, adding: “I married a great woman. We didn’t get a child together. Today, [nonetheless], I have no regrets…”
-MS MWAKIDEU’S VERSION-
According to Ms Mwakideu, she ended her marriage to Mr Burale because he had lived a lie to her months before and after their wedding.
“I would receive [phone] calls now and then from people and police saying Robert had unsettled debts,” she told Massawe on Radio Jambo. Unbeknown to her, most of Robert’s income was going towards settling debts.
“It was a character he had and I kept waiting because I thought he would change because he was born-again. For example, the main reason why I left was after my friend came to visit me and after she left, she wanted to sue him. I couldn’t handle that pressure plus other personal issues,” Ms Mwakideu said.
Ms Mwakideu said a larger part of her one year marriage, was imbued by unhappiness.
“[There were] red flags that he was cheating on me, but he would apologise. [However], he would fail and repeat [it]. Robert had so many things he was hiding from me in the name of being a pastor… [I was] expecting him to change. I became suicidal in that one year I lived with Robert because there was so much I was going through but I feared what people would say if I left. My mother is a prayerful person and that helped me,” said Ms Mwakideu.
She, however, acknowledges that she also played a role in the collapsing of their union.
“Being born-again does not mean we did not have flaws. I had so much expectation from Burale because he was a pastor, but I did not love as much as I expected. I was not patient,” she said
“I was not a good woman because if I was good, we would still be married. We still talk, but we have never met for the past five years since we parted.”
In 2017, Mr Burale came out to refute online rumours that he was planning to remarry, and that he had put up a fundraising kitty toward the said wedding.
“Attention ….I never answer to some issues, but sometimes one has to stand and stop some nonsense. For the last 3 months, some fake social media accounts (opened for a day and deleted) have been sending messages to people known to me stating that I am planning a wedding with someone called Praxedes and names keep changing (the only Praxedes I know is my auntie)… Some even asking for funds to help my wedding… I wish to state that I married in 2012 and marriage ended… So, whoever is purporting to raise funds for a wedding to some Praxedes or whoever, should be ignored. Unless I am getting married in my sleep…, if you had made a kitenge or suit for a wedding to Praxedes or something like that, dont waste it …wear it to church Please don’t get fooled by wedding stories,” said Mr Burale on Facebook in September 2017.