Nyakundi remarks on Adelle Onyango spark anger, Janet Mbugua chimes in


Blogger Cyprian Nyakundi has found himself on the receiving end after he wrote an outrageous social media post on radio presenter Adelle Onyango.

Nyakundi made vile remarks about a rape incident, which Adelle Onyango went through in 2008.

The celebrated radio host was sexually assaulted by a stranger while leaving a house party in Westlands, Nairobi.

Adelle Onyango has since responded to Nyakundi’s insensitive post, saying: “no matter the situation, no one deserves being told that he or she was raped because they called for it”.

“And I acknowledge that men are raped too, and I am sorry, but men who have lived their whole lives as men haven’t been told and taught that they deserve to be raped, that their voices carry no weight and that their anger is invalid.

“So Cyprian I understand why you think that we deserve to be raped and sexually objectified, abused, that our voices carry no weight and that my anger and my causes are infinitely invalid. I hope this allows you to experience some sort of vulnerability, either mine or your own.

“For the men that support our causes and realize the bane of the womb, we say thank you, and continue to support us, love us and cherish us, as women for being women, appreciate our intellect, hear our voices and acknowledge our accomplishments for we will continue to spread the message, and keep hope alive that one day we will live in a rape free society,” Adelle Onyango wrote in a statement.

The radio host’s response comes at a time social media users in their numbers ganged up against Nyakundi, calling him out for being manner-less, insensitive and atrocious.

Former Citizen Television news anchor Janet Mbugua is among those who have called out Cyprian Nyakundi.

Taking to her blog on October 22, Ms Mbugua wrote: “So I write this post in solidarity with Adelle Onyango and any other woman or man who has spoken out against rape culture and sexual harassment and instead been victimized or judged. It’s the first of many I intend to write.

“If you are mad and accusatory towards someone who has spoken out against rape culture and sexual harassment, you are a part of the problem.

“If a woman speaking out against rape turns you into a chest-thumping individual that calls us ‘toxic feminists’, you haven’t understood what masculinity truly means.

“If you think we speak out against these issues because we are against men, you don’t get it.

“You see, a lot of us are surrounded by good…no, GREAT men. They have fathered us, married us, befriended us, dated us, been born of us, hired us, lead us, followed us, respected us, loved us. So no, we don’t hate men.

“We hate that every second of everyday there is a woman somewhere in this world who is being harassed, assaulted, raped and in most cases, the perpetrator is a man. It’s a fact, not a blow at men and masculinity. We have to learn the difference.

“This woman is raped into silence, trauma and defeat. Some of these women are too affected to speak and so we will speak for them. You don’t have to like it.

“To my sisters and brothers who choose to shed light on these issues and speak out, we stand with you. So speak out but be ready to be attacked savagely, insulted, mocked, judged, laughed at. Every truth you stand for will be reduced to a meme. Those who love you and who you love may also bear the brunt. The nature of those insults will be massively grotesque. So much so that they may shake you but DON’T let them shatter you. Remember…it isn’t you. They’re not hitting out at YOU…

“The truth about the mirror is that it never tells a lie. It’s clear, it cuts deep, or reveals scars and wounds just as it does beauty and reverence. Those that hurl these insults and create excuses for why you were victimized or why you’re saying anything, are hitting out at their reflection, which can’t stand to see you in all your empowerment. It’s frightening and confusing, so you’ll be labeled and it may sting. But it isn’t you. It is not you. Malicious people are simply advertising their own self-loathing.

“You may backtrack to heal from the pain but don’t forget we still need your voice, so that millions of others may rise up to. We are here if you need us.

“As for you…yes, you…don’t laugh at rape. If I were you, instead of meming and demeaning, I would read, I’d get educated and understand the issues, I would look at the women and girls in my life that I love most and realize that they too could be victims.

“Rape culture exists because we don’t believe it does. So let’s start believing it.”


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